Yahuah's Design for Friendships, Dating, and Marriage
TRUTH CARRIERS EDUCATION SYSTEM Youth Edition (Ages 12-17)
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
"Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil."
💡 What You'll Learn
Relationships are one of the most important parts of life - and also one of the most confusing! The world has lots of ideas about dating, friendships, and romance, but what does YAHUAH say?
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In this workbook, we'll explore:
Yahuah's purpose for relationships
Building godly friendships
Biblical boundaries and purity
The difference between love and infatuation
Honoring your parents in relationships
Preparing for future marriage
Guarding your heart in a crazy world
Get ready to discover Yahuah's beautiful design for relationships!
📚 HOW TO USE THIS WORKBOOK
The Truth Carriers Learning Method - 6 Rs
This workbook uses the 6 Rs Learning Method for deep understanding:
1. RECEIVE Read what Scripture says about relationships.
2. REFLECT Complete questions and think deeply.
3. RECALL Close the book and write key truths from memory.
4. RECITE Teach these principles to a friend or sibling.
5. REVIEW Use the review tracker at Day 1, 3, 7, 21, 60.
6. RESPOND Apply these truths to your real relationships.
LESSON 1: YAHUAH'S PURPOSE FOR RELATIONSHIPS
Why Did Yahuah Create Relationships?
Genesis 2:18
"And Yahuah Elohim said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."
From the very beginning, Yahuah designed us for . We are made to be in community with others!
Godly Friendships
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Three Types of Relationships
Relationship with Yahuah - The most important! Everything else flows from this.
Family Relationships - Parents, siblings, extended family.
Friendships and Community - Friends, future spouse, the body of believers.
⭐ Key Truth
Your relationship with Yahuah must come FIRST. If your vertical relationship (with Yahuah) is strong, your horizontal relationships (with people) will be healthier!
Matthew 22:37-39
"Yahusha said unto him, Thou shalt love Yahuah thy Elohim with all thy heart... This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself."
What is Love?
The world says love is a . But the Bible says love is a and an .
Multiple Choice
1. According to Genesis 2:18, Yahuah said it was not good for man to be:
○ A) Rich ○ B) Alone ○ C) Smart ○ D) Young
2. Which relationship should come FIRST in our lives?
○ A) Friendship with peers ○ B) Relationship with Yahuah ○ C) Dating relationship ○ D) Relationship with parents
True or False
1. Love is primarily a feeling. ○ True ○ False - Correction:
2. Our relationships with people are affected by our relationship with Yahuah. ○ True ○ False
RECALL EXERCISE
Close this workbook. Write: Why did Yahuah create relationships? What should come first?
SCRIPTURE MEMORY: Matthew 22:37-39
"Thou shalt love Yahuah thy Elohim with all thy heart...and thy neighbour as thyself."
LESSON 2: BUILDING GODLY FRIENDSHIPS
Friends Shape Who You Become
Proverbs 13:20
"He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed."
Godly Friendships
Your friends influence your , your , and your . Choose wisely!
1 Corinthians 15:33
"Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners."
Qualities of a Good Friend
Loyalty: Sticks with you in hard times (Proverbs 17:17)
Honesty: Tells you the truth, even when it's hard (Proverbs 27:6)
Encouragement: Builds you up in faith (Hebrews 10:24-25)
Accountability: Helps you stay on the right path (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
Shared Values: Loves Yahuah and His ways
⚠️ Warning Signs in Friendships
They pressure you to compromise your values
They mock your faith or family
They encourage rebellion against parents
They gossip and create drama
They only come around when they want something
💡 Being a Good Friend
Don't just look for good friends - BE a good friend! Ask yourself: "Am I the kind of friend I would want to have?"
Multiple Choice
1. According to Proverbs 13:20, walking with wise people will make you:
○ A) Rich ○ B) Popular ○ C) Wise ○ D) Famous
2. "Evil communications corrupt good manners" means:
○ A) Bad friends can influence you negatively ○ B) Phones are bad ○ C) You should never talk ○ D) Good people can't be corrupted
RECALL
List 3 qualities of a good friend from memory:
APPLICATION
Evaluate your current friendships:
Who is a friend that encourages your faith?
Is there a friendship that might be pulling you away from Yahuah?
LESSON 3: GUARDING YOUR HEART
The Most Important Thing to Protect
Proverbs 4:23
"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life."
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"Keep" means to or . Your heart is like a treasure that needs protection!
What Does "Heart" Mean?
In the Bible, "heart" refers to:
Your mind - what you think about
Your emotions - what you feel
Your will - what you decide
Your affections - what you love
⭐ Why Guard Your Heart?
Everything you do flows from your heart! If you let garbage in, garbage will come out. If you fill it with good things, good things will flow out.
How to Guard Your Heart
Guard your eyes: What you look at affects your heart (Matthew 6:22-23)
Guard your ears: What you listen to shapes your thinking
Guard your thoughts: Take every thought captive (2 Corinthians 10:5)
Guard your emotions: Don't give your heart away too quickly
⚠️ Things That Attack Your Heart
Inappropriate media (movies, music, social media)
Romantic daydreaming about someone you can't marry
Emotional attachments before commitment
Comparing yourself to others
Bitterness and unforgiveness
Multiple Choice
1. Proverbs 4:23 says to keep your heart with:
○ A) Some effort ○ B) All diligence ○ C) No effort ○ D) Occasional attention
2. In the Bible, "heart" refers to:
○ A) Just feelings ○ B) Just the physical organ ○ C) Mind, emotions, will, and affections ○ D) Just thoughts
RECALL
Write 4 ways to guard your heart:
SCRIPTURE MEMORY: Proverbs 4:23
"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life."
LESSON 4: LOVE VS. INFATUATION
What's the Difference?
Many people confuse infatuation with love. Let's see what Scripture says about real love!
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
"Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things."
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Comparison Chart
INFATUATION
TRUE LOVE
Happens suddenly
Grows over time
Based on feelings
Based on commitment
Focused on appearance
Focused on character
Selfish (what can I get?)
Selfless (what can I give?)
Fades when problems come
Endures through difficulties
Physical attraction only
Spiritual, emotional, AND physical
Makes you act foolish
Makes you act wisely
💡 The Test of Time
True love isn't just a feeling - it's a . Feelings change; commitment doesn't. Ask: "Would I still choose this person if feelings faded?"
Multiple Choice
1. True love is based on:
○ A) Just feelings ○ B) Commitment and choice ○ C) Physical attraction ○ D) Popularity
2. According to 1 Corinthians 13, love is NOT:
○ A) Patient ○ B) Kind ○ C) Easily provoked ○ D) Hopeful
True or False
1. If you have strong feelings for someone, it must be love. ○ True ○ False - Correction:
2. True love grows over time. ○ True ○ False
RECALL
Write 3 differences between infatuation and true love:
TEACH-BACK CHALLENGE
Explain the difference between love and infatuation to a friend or sibling.
Person taught: Date:
LESSON 5: PURITY - WHY WAIT?
Yahuah's Design for Intimacy
Hebrews 13:4
"Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers Elohim will judge."
Yahuah created physical intimacy as a for marriage. It's not bad - it's SACRED!
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4
"For this is the will of Elohim, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour."
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Why Does Yahuah Say to Wait?
It protects you emotionally: Sex creates a soul-bond. Breaking that bond causes deep pain.
It protects you physically: STDs, unwanted pregnancy, health consequences.
It protects your future marriage: No baggage, no comparisons, no regrets.
It honors Yahuah: Your body is His temple (1 Corinthians 6:19-20).
It builds trust: If you can control yourself now, your future spouse can trust you.
⭐ Purity is a GIFT, Not a Burden
Yahuah isn't trying to take something FROM you - He's saving something FOR you! Purity is the gift you give your future spouse.
⚠️ The World's Lies vs. Yahuah's Truth
World Says
Yahuah Says
"Everyone's doing it"
Follow Yahuah, not the crowd
"It's no big deal"
It creates a permanent bond
"You need experience"
Purity is beautiful, not naive
"If you love them, prove it"
Real love waits and protects
Multiple Choice
1. According to Hebrews 13:4, marriage is:
○ A) Optional ○ B) Honourable ○ C) Outdated ○ D) Unnecessary
2. Purity protects you:
○ A) Emotionally only ○ B) Physically only ○ C) Emotionally, physically, and spiritually ○ D) It doesn't protect you
RECALL
Write 3 reasons why Yahuah says to wait for marriage:
APPLICATION
Write a commitment to purity:
LESSON 6: SETTING BOUNDARIES
Why Boundaries Matter
1 Corinthians 6:18
"Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body."
Family Sabbath Activity
The Bible says to from sexual sin - not walk close to the edge!
💡 The Cliff Analogy
Imagine you're hiking near a cliff. Would you walk as close to the edge as possible? No! You'd stay far away. That's what boundaries do for purity - they keep you far from danger.
Practical Boundaries
Physical boundaries: Decide in advance what physical contact is appropriate (and not appropriate)
Location boundaries: Avoid being alone in private places
Time boundaries: Don't spend excessive one-on-one time
Media boundaries: Avoid content that stimulates wrong desires
Conversation boundaries: Keep conversations honoring to Yahuah
⚠️ Boundary Breakers to Avoid
Being alone together at night
Being in bedrooms or cars together
Dressing immodestly
Watching inappropriate content together
Letting emotions override wisdom
Accountability
Having someone who can ask you hard questions helps you stay on track!
A parent or guardian
A trusted mentor
A same-gender godly friend
Multiple Choice
1. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says to _____ fornication:
○ A) Consider ○ B) Flee ○ C) Get close to ○ D) Think about
2. Boundaries are designed to:
○ A) Ruin your fun ○ B) Protect you and honor Yahuah ○ C) Make life boring ○ D) Impress others
RECALL
List 3 types of boundaries you should set:
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APPLICATION
Write specific boundaries you will set:
Physical:
Location:
Media:
LESSON 7: HONORING YOUR PARENTS
What Does This Have to Do With Relationships?
Exodus 20:12
"Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which Yahuah thy Elohim giveth thee."
Your parents have been given authority to you - including in relationships!
Why Their Input Matters
Experience: They've been your age; they see things you might miss
Love: They want what's best for you
Perspective: They can see red flags you might be blind to
Authority: Yahuah placed them over you for protection
⭐ If They Don't Approve...
If your parents don't approve of a relationship, take it seriously! Either there's something wrong with the relationship, OR you need to show them they can trust your judgment. Either way, hiding it from them is never the answer.
Proverbs 1:8
"My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother."
Practical Ways to Honor Parents in Relationships
Tell them about people you're interested in
Ask for their wisdom and input
Let them meet anyone you're considering dating
Respect their boundaries and rules
Don't sneak around behind their backs
Multiple Choice
1. Exodus 20:12 is part of:
○ A) The 10 Suggestions ○ B) The 10 Commandments ○ C) Good ideas ○ D) Old rules
2. If your parents don't approve of a relationship, you should:
○ A) Hide it from them ○ B) Ignore them ○ C) Take their concerns seriously ○ D) Get angry
True or False
1. Parents are too old to understand relationships. ○ True ○ False - Correction:
2. Honoring parents includes being open about relationships. ○ True ○ False
RECALL
Write 3 reasons why parents' input matters:
APPLICATION
LESSON 8: PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE NOW
You're Not Ready to Date Until...
Proverbs 24:27
"Prepare thy work without, and make it fit for thyself in the field; and afterwards build thine house."
Before you build a house (marriage), you need to yourself!
Things to Develop NOW
Your relationship with Yahuah: Are you walking with Him daily?
Your character: Are you honest, kind, patient, self-controlled?
Your work ethic: Are you responsible and diligent?
Your family relationships: Do you honor your parents?
Your emotional health: Can you handle disappointment without falling apart?
Your skills: Are you learning practical life skills?
💡 Become the Right Person
Instead of asking "Where is the right person for me?" ask "Am I becoming the right person for someone else?"
What to Look for in a Future Spouse
Loves Yahuah: More than anything else (Matthew 6:33)
Good character: Honest, kind, self-controlled, humble
Honors parents: How they treat their family shows how they'll treat you
Responsible: Can work hard and handle money wisely
Shared values: Same beliefs about Yahuah, Torah, children, etc.
Multiple Choice
1. The most important question to ask is:
○ A) "Where is the right person for me?" ○ B) "Am I becoming the right person?" ○ C) "Who is the cutest?" ○ D) "Who is most popular?"
2. The most important quality in a future spouse is:
○ A) Good looks ○ B) Money ○ C) Loving Yahuah ○ D) Popularity
RECALL
List 3 things to develop NOW to prepare for marriage:
APPLICATION - Self-Evaluation
Rate yourself 1-10 in these areas:
Relationship with Yahuah:
Character (honesty, kindness):
Work ethic:
Honoring parents:
What area needs the most growth?
FINAL REVIEW: WHAT WE LEARNED
Key Truths About Relationships
Relationship with Yahuah comes first
Friends shape who you become
Guard your heart with all diligence
Love is a choice and commitment, not just a feeling
Purity is a gift, not a burden
Boundaries protect you
Honor your parents in relationships
Become the right person, not just find the right person
1 Corinthians 13:13
"And now abideth faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love."
My Commitment
Based on what I've learned, I commit to:
Signature: Date:
SPACED REVIEW TRACKER
Instructions: After completing each lesson, review at these intervals.
